What happens when you don’t see your own beauty, and you start fixating on others? Your definition of beauty becomes them and you try your best to be that definition of beauty. Doing things you don’t like or enjoy but pursuing them because that’s what you think beauty looks like.
What happens? You lose yourself.
In a time where comparing yourself has become so much easier and value is placed on likes, friends, and people’s opinions, pleasing others becomes the norm. You do this because it makes someone happy even though it kills you inside. You do that so that that person can stick around.
It’s not wrong to serve others. In fact, it’s the exact opposite. It’s beautiful to always put other people first before your needs. It’s good to help. But, you don’t have to stick around when you’re not happy.
It’s okay not to hang around places where you’re not wanted. It’s helpful to know that you can be toxic to some people. It’s fine to accept that you’re not made for everybody; no one really is.
So what’s the point of me saying all this?
The point is, it’s okay to look at your own plate. To look at what you’re serving others. It’s okay to reflect on yourself and grow more self-aware; especially in service to others. It’s just fine not wanting to be like someone else and it’s okay to have your own definition of beautiful. It’s fun that you don’t have yourself all figured out. You’re a complex being that is constantly growing. Figuring yourself out is a life-long journey.
You don’t need anyone’s approval to be yourself. Just do you. =)